so if a co-worker who is relatively new (say 4 months here) said to you in a meeting:
“you never listen!” and he sounded sorta exasperated and when you replied, “yuhuh, i do so.” and he said even more short and exasperated, “you do not.” what would you think of that? i can’t tell what to think and it’s been bugging me since friday. because it’s a totally rude thing to say to someone and i have no idea what he meant by it.
should i just dismiss it? should i ask him exactly what he meant? should i just go have some more dots and not think about it?
world wide you’ve got to be kidding me
the frequencies went straight to the teeth
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I’d poke him in the eye with a broom. Or, you should have asked him to prove it with concrete examples of your penchant for “never listening”. Or, you could be professional and ask him exactly what you meant so you can “improve”, which will make your manager smile in that approving managerial way.
24 Mar 03 at 4:02 pm #Since you’re still thinking about it, ask him what he meant. He sounds kind of unsure of himself. He also used one of those dreaded “always/never” statements. A skilled communicator would say, “When blah-blah-blah, I feel blah-blah-blah.”
For instance, instead of…
“You never listen to me.”
…he could have said…
“When you back away from me during our conversations, I feel you don’t want to hear what I have to say.”
And you could have offered him a breath mint or something. Instead, his insecurity is just making you feel insecure!
24 Mar 03 at 4:40 pm #I don’t think HER particular manager would make that smile - I guess it’s possible.
I vote for the dots. Maybe sometime we could play a game of dots? The turn signal indicators in the dash of my car are dot-shaped. Dots on your face are called freckles.
Dot \Dot\, n. [Cf. AS. dott small spot, speck; of uncertain
origin.]
1. A small point or spot, made with a pen or other pointed
instrument; a speck, or small mark.
2. Anything small and like a speck comparatively; a small
portion or specimen; as, a dot of a child.
And that’s all I have to say about that.
24 Mar 03 at 4:42 pm #If it were me, during the next natural conversation with this person, I would say: “I was thinking about what you said last week. Do you really perceive me as not listening/paying attention to you?” And hear what he says.
24 Mar 03 at 5:06 pm #Clearly he was fantasizing about you…
25 Mar 03 at 1:10 am #Five words:
25 Mar 03 at 10:38 am #“Cram it with walnuts, ugly.”
I think I’d have said something along the lines of “If you don’t like it, you can chomp on a mouthful of my taint.”
25 Mar 03 at 11:46 am #Do girls have taint?
25 Mar 03 at 2:03 pm #Do girls have taint?
25 Mar 03 at 2:03 pm #Drat! The dreaded double-post. Curse my clumsy fingers and slow interweb connection!
Well, while we’re at it, let’s make it a triple!
25 Mar 03 at 2:05 pm #umm, what’s a taint?
25 Mar 03 at 3:33 pm #Well, on boys it’s the space between the scrotum and anus. On girls, I guess it would be the space between the vagina and anus.
Aren’t you glad you asked?
25 Mar 03 at 4:42 pm #Well, on boys it’s the space between the scrotum and anus. On girls, I guess it would be the space between the vagina and anus.
Aren’t you glad you asked?
25 Mar 03 at 4:43 pm #That’s right, Natalie. ‘Taint vagina, ‘taint anus neither.
25 Mar 03 at 6:33 pm #I’d have responded with, “I’m sorry — did somebody say something?” No more. No less.
30 Mar 03 at 5:19 pm #