You don’t know tall: The perils of being a 6’5″ single woman

Peabo

September 7th 2007 - 3:34pm

Man, I took issue with that chick’s comment in the first paragraph. Not dating a guy because he’s short isn’t ‘sexist.’ It has nothing to do with his sex. Heightist, maybe. But if she’s going to criticize, she should at least criticize with the right label.

Jodi

September 7th 2007 - 3:37pm

I think it was a Dude who wrote that one, but you’re right it’s not sexist.

I was once called a racist for not wanting to date a shorter man.

UH

September 7th 2007 - 4:47pm

I never got to date anyone taller than me, as I am also 6’5″. I would totally have dated a tall chick, though, as long as she had a nice rack. A guy has to have his priorities.

Jodi

September 7th 2007 - 4:51pm

Oh, I know what you mean. I’d totally date a midget if he had a GIANT penis. We girls have priorities too.

UH

September 7th 2007 - 5:14pm

Of course, giant to a midget is pretty much just normal to anyone else.

Jodi

September 7th 2007 - 5:17pm

It’d have to seem giant to me, ya heathen.

shokkou

September 7th 2007 - 6:06pm

… imagining a midget with a schlong that would look giant to a 6’5″ woman. *snort!* bwahahaha!

JSkunk

September 9th 2007 - 10:30pm

I think the punchline is 10 lbs, 2 ounces.

JSkunk

September 9th 2007 - 10:37pm

BTW, your comments about how you feel rather than what others think are touching and sweet.

vill

October 10th 2007 - 11:17am

I have a great relationship with a 6ft woman, I am 5ft3.we have been dating for about 3 months now,in getting to know each other, we both came to the realization , that height doesnt matter and for us it is in fact , the only thing we do not have in common.The one thing a shorter man has to have in dating a tall woman is confidance, and a sense of humor, it helps when you have to ask for a kiss , because you cant reach that high.

Natalia

October 28th 2007 - 10:48am

Hello! Just stumbled over this entry of yours while researching Sophie Dahl, and all I have to say is – preach it! I’m only 5’8″ and I’ve continuously felt weird and awkward about being “tall,” and you know, this is the time to start getting over that.

Your post made me realize that it’s really all about confidence. I honestly wonder how many potentially good relationships never saw the light of day because of “ZOMG, he’s short!”

I’m just glad that I was able to get over that, in part, when I met my boyfriend – who’s a few inches shorter. In fact, I think I’ll be writing an essay about all of this. I might contact you for an interview you at some point.

monceau

December 16th 2007 - 3:26pm

I’m a relatively short man (5’8″) and have always wanted to date a taller, sophosticated and well-built woman (6 feet and up), but have not been successful finding such a partner as yet, anyone here?

Jodi

December 16th 2007 - 3:34pm

Good luck on your quest. I hate to break it to you, but this isn’t a dating site or a personals site or a place to find sophisticated, well-built 6 feet and up women.

It’s just me, crude, tall, and poorly built.

andreas

January 5th 2008 - 9:03pm

I am a man of middle haight 1.78 cm (5.10ft),and I have a problem….I always could have almost every girl of my heihgt and less,but never a taller one…only once i had a relationship with a girl that was 1.83 and i liked it very much cause I appreciate and like tall women…so if there’s any tall woman interested,
plzz contact me through msn or e-mail…my id is andreasN.Kosmos@hotmail.com
that’s for now…kisses…!

Steve

January 21st 2008 - 7:26pm

Well, 6’5″ Single Woman, you’ve essentially realized the key of going beyond what society says people should want in one another. That key is how the guy makes you feel feminine, smart, sexy, secure, and appreciated. The “5’10″ shorties” to which you refer don’t yet realize that they are fooling themselves thinking a guy needs to be taller to make them feel protected when it’s really their true desire to feel EMOTIONALLY secure and protected. I am 5’2″ and from the moment I notice a tall gorgeous girl from across the room, I see her smile, blush, and melt in the most feminine way.

Jay

March 24th 2008 - 4:51pm

Just wondering how this topic came up. As a tall male, the only time I can think that height makes a difference to me is on the dance floor. There’s a lot more about personal compatibility than height. The tragic implication of your experience with the tall ones who treated you like pond scum tells me you already know this. Nonetheless, not all males of the relatively taller category treat their dates that way, and some of us actually treat them well.

Alex

April 11th 2008 - 10:07am

I just wanted to add it’s all about confidence I’m 5,6-5,7 at most and last week I found out that a woman I work with…actually has a had a crush on me…she is 6,3 beautiful and simply wicked…she stepped up and asked me out because she figured I would never have asked her for fear rejection. (she was right didn’t think I had a chance in h-ll) So all I have to say is there are some tall women who will date a shorter man….but my fellow short men you need to be confident in yourself!!! It all starts there.

Em

April 13th 2008 - 8:25pm

Wow I can absolutely agree with everything you’ve said. I’m 6’4″ and never dated a guy taller than me. My current partner is about 5″10. It’s absolutely fine, not a problem, except that I sometimes get upset by other people’s comments. People ask him if he has to stand on a box to kiss me. Random people on the street feel they have the right to shout out “She’s too tall for you!”. People are so cruel and rude sometimes.

Paul

May 8th 2008 - 12:46pm

Nice to read sensible comments for a change! I’m 5’5 and regretably turned down a lass I fancied in my teens because she was about 6’2. I regretfully bottled it because of what others might think. Now I’ve grown up (lol, in my outlook on life etc that is)Im more than pleased to say that fate has thrown us together again after some 20 yrs and I am proud to be reunited with my tall girlfriend.So to hell with what others might think,e know better! We have a fantastic thing together and height difference is certainly no longer a concern. Good on ya 6’5 babe.

Andy

May 14th 2008 - 5:08pm

I’m a pretty short guy (5’8″ on a normal day, maybe 5’9″ if I sleep real well) and I’ve been told that this is “average height” which is a gigantic load of bull. Nearly every where I go I can spot easily hundreds of people that are taller than me, and a good deal are ladies. I’ve got a preference for tall ladies, and don’t feel intimidated by taller women at all, but I feel as if I’ve not a chance in hell to get with them.

I’ve got a female friend who’s around 6’2″ and she told me she would never date a man who was more than an inch shorter, which to me, was a fairly progressive stand-point (awfully insecure and shallow, but better than some other things I’ve heard). She obviously never even considered that she’d be hurting my feelings (not that we were dating, but still, way to make me even less emotionally stable). It seems to me that women who are tall only date short men when, in your case, they’ve really got no choice, or, rarely, they aren’t overly shallow. Tall women are insecure because they feel like everyone stares at them, and don’t want to be the freak on display. I would never want to be with someone who feels the need to be that way.

Amazonian babes, listen up, short men are really cool. We treat you right because we will be really grateful just to hold your hand, or be seen with you in public. We’re funny and truly interesting to make up for our lack of sex appeal, and we’ll make you feel like goddesses. You’ve just gotta give us one chance to prove ourselves. Tall men will treat you worse than a short man will. They are spoiled and brash. They will cheat on you and make you feel bad.

The next time a short man asks you out, consider him for a minute. You might just find your next true love.

donkey

June 9th 2008 - 12:24pm

hi there.! i am a 5’2″ indian male (short,fat and ware glasses)not looking good so far. I work face to face with customers all day long. Young ,old, men and lots and lots of beautiful women of all types and sizes, working in such an environment has boosted my condidence no end and now i will brush off any hurtful or inipropreate comments about my height because i’m the bigger man (so to speak?). I have found that a woman will fall for you because your the best man she has ever met and if she can see past the height difference thing , i can’t see why the relationship won’t work.

Tracy

June 10th 2008 - 8:51am

I know of many guys (me included) that are attracted to a taller woman. Is it weird that I would want to be with a woman that might stand a head taller?
It is a thrill to have that long body taking up all my visual space as we stand close or dance with those arms all around me.

Jodi? If you still look at this piece. I want to say you’re a rare find. You give hope to those guys that do like the tall side of the female world.

Tracy

June 10th 2008 - 8:52am

I forgot to state I’m 5’8″.

Rob

June 12th 2008 - 1:30am

I am a 5’5″ tall guy, and have been since high school. In high school I attracted a girl who was about 6’5″ (a foot taller). I didn’t ask her out for fear of what others will say and think. I also attracted a woman who must have been about 6′ 7″ or 6′ 8″ while on a line in a convenience store. I was up to her shoulder, and had fear again of what other people will say. I know these 2 height differences are extremely substantial, but they showed me something about self-confidence and making taller women feel good as well. For years and years I was turning down numerous chances to date more than a dozen women who are taller than me. Several were much taller. That’s when I began to realize that tall or short, women have a heart, a soul, and personality. So I began to just treat women with respect for all of the characteristics that make them ladies. Being relaxed, friendly, personable, and sharing a sense of humor, has been among the reasons why I’ve had so many tall women show interest in me. Short ones too. But when I look up at a lady who is a few inches taller, or even 10 + inches taller, I don’t treat them differently or look at them like they are different. I never ask a tall lady, “How tall are you?”, unless I get to know her enough, and in conversation she wouldn’t feel uncomfortable telling me. I never ask women who are 5’10″ and over, “Do you play basketball?” or “Are you a Volleyball player?” Some tall women are nurses, lawyers, teachers etc. I also don’t ever say to a very tall woman, “Wow, you’re so tall!” I’m not informing her of something she doesn’t already know. Besides, I don’t want for her to say, “Wow, you’re so short!”…”Do you play miniature golf?” Ha Ha All in all, I’ve become so used to just treating any lady, with class and talking with her because she is interesting, has a great sense of humor, or a great personality. At this point, I don’t even think much about the height of a taller woman. This has made me confident enough to get dates, as well as having made taller women feel good about themselves and dating me or other short guys. We are all born with very little control over what our height will be as adults. But we have a lot of control over how we percieve others, and how we connect. We also have a lot of control over how we communicate with people no matter what their height. To me, it is not about a taller woman’s height, it’s about making a taller woman feel good, appreciated, and respected for who she is as a lady. Plus, making her laugh and feel connected in interests as well as personality, can easily make height of lesser issue. The lady who is 6’5″ and wrote the post, has a great point, that how a man makes her feel is more important than what others might think if she’s seen together with a shorter man. Confidence and mutual respect make a huge difference in such relationships. When taller woman date shorter men and vice versa, ultimately others who may make comments, would see that other compatibilities exist. Love, care, and friendship would be the tallest of all.

sniper

August 17th 2008 - 2:17pm

I’m a man (5’4) and have wanted a taller, well-built woman (upto 6 ft), but have not been finding such a partner as yet,but once i had a relationship with a girl that was 5.6 and so if there’s any tall woman interested,
plzz contact me through e-mail…my id is mamr_a@yahoo.com

Holtz

August 18th 2008 - 1:59am

These comments are hilarious! I can’t believe I missed them before.

Jodi

August 18th 2008 - 8:53am

It’s kind of why I leave them. They crack me up. I don’t think a lot of the commenters even know what in the hell they are writing on. Does this look like a personals site?

James Roessler

August 22nd 2008 - 2:11pm

I am 52 and 5’11″ in height,, and I love to be the shorter one.. I love the woman to be taller .. to the woman who wrote the above article.. The Perils of being 6’5… I would love to know you.. I am 52 and still single, becouse I love the taller woman, taller than I am..

therobinfliesagain

September 9th 2008 - 2:15am

ye, i love taller women,however; since i am 5’8″ tall I always had cold feet and chickened out and found a girl who was more “fitting” to my stature. But now i’m starting to think why not? If I like the person it shouldn’t be a problem.

tiny

September 16th 2008 - 9:39am

Yeah, the grass is always greener. As a 6-8 guy (for real), the one thing I’ve always wanted to meet is a girl who is at least eye-level, or close. But everyone always says different…

B

November 11th 2008 - 8:54pm

Wow. This whole thing has been so amazing and eye opening for me to read. And I thought that I had it bad. I’m a 5’11 woman, and I always had this complex with shorter men. I always strayed away from shorter guys who were interested in me because I felt like I would make them feel like I was this giant and that they were insufficient. I also always liked the idea of having a guy bigger than me to just be able to envelope me in his arms, as sappy as that sounds. But recently, I have really started to become attracted to a guy that is 5’6, and it’s been killing me thinking about all of this kind of stuff. I needed validation that a tall woman and short guy could work out. I had no idea how many men liked dating taller women! This has opened my eyes and empowered me. Thank you.

Shronda

November 11th 2008 - 10:18pm

Being “different” always caused me to second guess my worth, my attractiveness and my appeal. I was forever concious of the stares, the dumb comments, people automatically being intimidated by me,etc. But in time, I realized that what was most important was how I saw myself… I used to discriminate against shorter guys because I thought we’d look “silly” together. Then I came to myself and decided I would be an equal opportunity dater, I din’t want to miss out on a great guy simply because he was smaller in stature. I am a six footer and I actually think some guys are primarily attracted by the height itself. I once had a guy say to me, with his head barely coming up to my chest, “a short brother can’t get no play?” He was seriously about 5’2″, but I couldn’t be mad at him… Now I see how much confidence those shorter than I have and I dig that, they also make me feel more confident myself. I’ve mostly been wary of the size of my hands and feet, which are large, but are attributed to my stature. Like the author I dated a guy about 5’8 who made me feel absoltely gorgeous, like I was the sexiest woman on the planet, and none of his words or actions were about size, it was because he was diggin’ me…It is so about how an individual treats you and makes you feel special…Now that’s what’s up!

Shronda

November 11th 2008 - 10:42pm

He was 5’6 I meant to say…

K

December 6th 2008 - 12:23am

I am a 6’2 girl, that just found someone I think might be the one, and he is 5’9. I felt exactly how ” B” above felt, and I feel a lot better about it all now. I realized that I have never had anyone make me feel so happy, or special and that its time to get over what other people think.

Cane

December 12th 2008 - 5:30am

I’m 5’6″. I’d actually like to date silly tall women but I can barely work up the nerve to talk to short gals(my fault), I don’t think I can take being shut down by a mountain.

TB

December 14th 2008 - 9:17pm

Wow! I love how you go about being so tall, it’s really a confidence booster. Ha, after reading what you wrote, i know i have NO right to complain, but I am 5′ 11″ and 16 years old…hopefully I am done growing, I think I am. My boyfriend is about 3 inches shorter than me, and I was considering breaking up with him because of our height differences, but I’ve made my decision. Thanks!

Muuurph

December 15th 2008 - 11:07am

Damn, I found this while doing a GIS looking for porn involving tall chicks. What do I find? A reasonable well thought out bit on the struggles of a tall woman. I once knew a 6’4″ woman who was absolutely beautiful and intelligent and was going on a diet because she wanted to get back down to a size 6! It’s amazing the strange ideas people have about themselves.

For the record, I’m 6’2″ and used to have great times with women close to a foot shorter than me, although as stated earlier the slow dancing (which as a white guy is about all I do) was a bit awkward. I’ve been happily married to a 5’7″ girl for 11 years now.

Now back to surfing for porn (what else am I going to do at work?)

Jacie

January 24th 2009 - 1:51pm

This is an interesting topic. As a 5’2″ tall woman, I once had a man who was 7’2″ tall ask me for a date. The distance was a major factor, so it never materialized. The second gentleman was 6ft 10″ tall. Unfortunately, taller men do have heart problems due to the amount of blood flow required to regulate their hearts. The second gentleman informed me that he only had a few months left to live after we had been long distance friends for over 6 months. It was very heart breaking indeed. When meeting shorter men, I do find that they are extemely attracted to taller woman anywhere’s from 5’10″ to over the 6′ foot marker. It is interesting how both tall and short men view woman. All in all, from what I have noticed is that most tall men would like to date woman who are at eyes height, whereas shorter men seem to be very attracted to very tall woman. And from this post, it seems that short guys seem to stand a better chance of dating tall ladies. And short girls are left out in the cold, especially woman who are 5’5″ or even shorter. Guys are lucky because most woman like them regardless of their height, it’s all about the confidence and respect for the other person. Still don’t know why these very tall men were so attracted to me, short men don’t even realize that I even exist. Then again I am very confident, and always respect all men regardless of height. It’s just natural for me to be kind and respectable at all times, and in all places. Don’t know why short guys avoid me, perhaps it’s because they feel more confident being with taller woman. From this site it seems that short guys should start dating taller woman like 5’10″ to 6’10″. Where does this leave all the nice kind shorter woman? Alone forever!!! A sad prospect indeed . . .

Jacie,

One honest tiny lady says ‘Don’t worry short men you have a better chance of dating any woman,than short woman have of dating any man – short/tall. Enought said on this topic, you short guys are LUCKY!!!

Short woman are UNLUCKY!!!

Amazon

January 27th 2009 - 11:14pm

I am 6’2 and live in an area with hardly any tall guys. This article was pretty awesome and a major confidence booster. Everyday almost random strangers tell me “you’re gorgeous” or “you’re so beautiful” but all I could see was “I’m tall”. I’m starting to believe what they say and I think I’m going to start embracing the height I have. Thanks guys

Don

January 31st 2009 - 1:09pm

well some men like dating tall women for the change , and some date all size women tall to small . Now I think if the women has a problem at dating a shorter man the the male may pick up on it a develop problems . but if the lady dose not have a problem with it them neather will the man she is with . that gose for some guys.
Note Now for me I am an all size person myself .

Don

January 31st 2009 - 1:14pm

and being a male myself asking women out is a task in itself . men have the same fears as women do when it come to doing that at frist and for taller ladys , try asking out a shorter guy.
you may be serprised

santiago

February 2nd 2009 - 10:59am

:0 … i’m 5’2, never could date a girl that tall, but i don’t blame the height maybe i’m not using the right weapons :/

TL1584

February 4th 2009 - 1:59pm

IM A 5’7 GUY MY GIRLFRIEND IS 6’5,SHE IS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL SWEETEST GIRL IVE EVER MET AND I LOVE HER!!

TL871

February 5th 2009 - 6:39am

Its not the height of the person that matters its their personality, and whether you ‘connect’ with them.

I am 6’5″ and have dated women who are 5’3″ – no problem. Enjoy the person forget the height!

Kinz

February 11th 2009 - 11:42pm

I LOVE this article! I’m a 5’11″ tall gal. I used to be very self conscious about my height, and I only wanted to date tall guys, but they all turned out to be overconfident jerks. My boyfriend right now is 5’7″ and he’s the most amazing person ever! Height doesn’t matter if you really love each other.

jason

February 12th 2009 - 2:38am

I have a bone disease, and I am only 5ft3. my gf is 5ft11. we love each other alot, and height doesn’t matter.

eddie

February 15th 2009 - 10:29am

i am 5’5 and my wife is 6’3. she has high heels that make her 7 feet. she rules the house and we never have a problem. tall women are great.

eddie

February 15th 2009 - 10:31am

you do not know the thrill of being lifted and kissed by a tall womem.

Jacie

March 1st 2009 - 11:27am

It’s been a while since I checked this site. I truly love this site. You guys are awesome! Tall womam and men are very beautiful. You have no worries. I am short, but my respect and honesty have won me tall men who are very near and dear to me (5ft 10″ – 6ft 10″). I don’t connect well with short guys, but tall guys rule my world. I have had more tall men ask for dates than short men. I love tall men, because they don’t let height get in the way of their deep sincere love for their sweetheart!

Happy to know that tall men/woman are not only confident, but they don’t let height get in the way of their feelings for one they truly care for even if the person is not at eye level. This is a good feeling to know!

Love you guys!!!

Big Dee

March 12th 2009 - 11:37pm

Hello, Jodi. I was surfing various websites and I came across your blog. You have to be the third tall single young woman who wrote something about the “TALL WOMAN/SHORT MAN” dating situation. I’m still scratching my head about it. You talked about dating short confident guys. You never gave a legit reason why you don’t date guys taller than you are. I do understand that there are not that many guys that stand taller than 6’5″. As quiet as it’s kept, I’m 6’6″, 310lbs. (Guess my nickname BIG DEE didn’t give that stat away.) I guess I’m sitting on the male end of your universe. I’m a tall guy looking for a tall gal. I’ve avoided dating gals under six foot just because they always insist on using you like a beanstalk and their name in “JACKIE”. I’ve dealt with so many short women that I feel like Gulliver trapped on a all-female Liliput. I think that the real problem is that the majority of six foot tall women here in Detroit are dating guys shorter than they are. You don’t see alot of six foot couples around here. I’m the type of guy that STILL believes in chivalry. You know, opening doors for your lady, protecting your gal, cuddling with your bo on cold nights. Stuff like that. I look forward to your response.

Ciao,

Big Dee

johnny

July 12th 2009 - 6:02pm

I have seen a video where a man is about 30″ tall married to a woman over 5L6″. That to me was unbelievable. But anything less than ifoot difference is OK

Bruce

July 26th 2009 - 7:07pm

Im actually a 6′ 4″ guy and I’d love to have a woman as tall as me, 6′ 5″ is ok too

wade vick

August 9th 2009 - 6:26pm

I’m a male 6ft. tall and I won’t date a woman less than 6ft myself. Although what’s on the inside is what counts…my goal is to find that awesome beauty who spans over 6ft. I guess it had something to do with my first love who was 6’6″. If only I could I could find a 7 foot tall woman…I would be so happy!!(THen I could put her in some heels!!) A woman under 6 foot is just so typical.

shela

October 9th 2009 - 4:37pm

I’m six foot and short men are always trying to talk to me in nite clubs, its as though tall me are intimidated by me, short me look at me as a challenge. I just want to be happy right now I’m so lonely because I want a good man size doesn’t really matter its what’s in the heart that’s really important.

ED

October 12th 2009 - 6:49pm

Four words: Susan. Anton. Dudley. Moore.

Busi

November 7th 2009 - 2:27am

I am a six foot tall woman who absolutely adores her heels and will not wear flats under any circumstances. I have been fortunate to date men that have been taller than me but it has been hard finding a man who is six foot and taller and not had an issue with me wearing heels. I would love to meet that man! Men generally find me intimidating no matter how much I try to accomodate them and I have been told that its because I am slim, black and beautiful. I just want a man who won’t be intimidated and appreciate me for who I am!

JASON MURPHY

November 11th 2009 - 8:01pm

I am only 5.2 and I never had a date before. Women alwanys tell me I am too short, not their type, or too nice. I will love to date tall women. Height doesn’t matter. Taller they are the bigger the hugs and heart. For me big things come in smaller packages like my heart. For women who are tall its even a bigger heart… So please give me a call at seven zero two five zero one one five three two. Lets talk and be happy… Hugs… Jason

Johnny Candrosa

December 5th 2009 - 6:04pm

Being 6’9″, I sure wish there were more taller women out there. Although one of my best friends is less than 5′, I find dating shorter women to be uncomfortable. Even more uncomfortable is trying to find a car that isn’t a luxury sedan. So it goes.

jim

February 12th 2010 - 11:52am

I’m at 5’1 guy and used to think i could not have a women less taller than myself. But just last year i dated a super tall women who is 6’4 . i feel brilliant because size does not matter

rebec

February 14th 2010 - 5:14pm

hello! i am a 30 year old single 6’4” woman who doesn’t share the story of ‘dating shorter men’ but has the story of ‘lack of dating due to scared short men’. i am open to dating men shorter than me (to an extent, i have to admit…. 5’10” might be my cut off) but regardless, it is always so much more THEIR problem rather than mine. yes, the old quote of confidence that i hear from friends ‘well, then you wouldn’t want them anyway….’ fair. but seriously- where to turn? where do i look for a man of solid character, emotional maturity and good sense of self….. who of course can handle and would love to behold a woman of my size? -annoyed.

Dave

February 19th 2010 - 2:02am

I am a 5’6″ tall male, and I have always loved and been fascinated with taller women. If they are 6ft, and they want to wear 4 or 5 inch heels, I say more power to them. It doesn’t bother me they they are taller, or can make themselves taller than they are. I have found the the problem lies with the women. They see a shorter guy, and they are like…”no way” They seem to feel like giants next to a shorter guy, no matter how hard any of us shorter guys try to make them feel pretty, and loved.

Axel Nelson

June 18th 2010 - 11:01am

i was lucky to find a taller women & we are in love. the only problem: when we have sex foreplay, she claims that she must whip me to get her in the mood.

Hannah

June 22nd 2010 - 7:22pm

I have friends that are a tall couple. They met in college. The wife is 6 ft 4 and the husband is 6ft 7. They have two kids that are very tall for thier age, long and lean. I am 5 ft 8 and as a teen I wore high heels often and people used to go on and on about how tall I was because they were mostly 5 ft 3 or so. Once a woman asked me if I had to order special clothes because I was so tall. I was somewhat amused and offended at the same time. I have dated men as tall as 6 ft 9 and as short as 5 ft 9. Once I went to college I found that I wasnt really tall for a female that I was average. I met and married a man who is 5 ft 11 and 3/4 and the best thing about being close in height is kissing and hugging each other.

Alexis

June 23rd 2010 - 10:24pm

I just wanted to say how much I appreciate this blog! And I was wondering if 6’2″ is “freakishly tall”?

It’s nice to know that there are other people out there who have the same concerns as me. I’ve always been awkward because I’m a red-head,super pale, and rather thin. And I’m 17 years old. Hearing people talk about how tall people can be comfortable in their own skin makes me feel better about my height (I love wearing heels).

And might I add that I would like to punch those people who whisper behind my back, “Whoa, look, she’s tall!” in their faces??

tony

June 25th 2010 - 7:00am

Hi
I would just like to leave a comment…. I am a young 35yr old man form the UK. I have dated several women between 6ft and 6ft7 of different ages ranging from 19 -47 and from different cultures and social standing. I like a few men find taller women more exquisite, glamourous ect.
However a common trend if find only with the ladies i have dated is their overiding insecurities especially around their height. Issues growing up suffering veerbal abuse from people because they were taller ect.
I take heart that i have met these individuals and helped them ovceercome some of thier historic issues allowing them to grow and glorify who they are.
On a lighter note…… I thinkm the sex is much better with a taller woman, i love it because theres much more to handle and play with and if their body is in porportion with their height.. “GOD DAMN” you can do much more than you can with a smaller person. Please dont judge me as i am only talking from my experiences.

Thx for listening

Rocky

June 30th 2010 - 10:02pm

I’m a guy (5’9″), but thin build. I do yoga. I’m strong, but I guess I don’t look like it, and my personality isn’t very macho. I am kind and respect others…and realize that we all come in different shapes and sizes.

Having said that, I have found that I do like to be the smaller one in a relationship. I can’t understand or explain why just yet…but do I need to? Can’t I just feel a certain way? It’s perhaps because of my naturally smaller build (although I must digress and mention that I’m quite normal size where it counts). I have embraced my physicality and myself, and I’ve decided that I like the way nice women treat me regardless of their size/shape.

Undeniably though, I’m very attracted to tall women … for some reason I have been able relate to them on a physical level all my life. I have had one girlfriend who was taller than me, and I loved her very much even though it didn’t work out. I will always love her. I have had one girlfriend who was exactly my height, and I loved her. I will always love her too. And I’ve had several girlfriends who were not as tall as me. I loved them too, except for one, I will always love them too (one of them turned out to be a stalker…and I don’t much care for her).

Anyway, I have great respect for the author of this blog for having the courage not only to embrace life as a tall woman, and in action, essentially ‘correct’ what is so archaic and wrong with our society’s values and perspectives on gender and height, but also for having put it out here on the WWW, so that others can benefit from this knowledge. Addressing these issues makes you unimaginably HOT. It takes independence, confidence, and true intelligence to arrive at your disposition.

If I could close my eyes and wish for someone to come into my life…anyone, it just might be a tall confident, beautiful woman like you. And, If you could get over my cheesy pick up line, you’d see that everything about me is genuine and true in the long run.

Thank you for posting this blog

Pete

July 10th 2010 - 4:12pm

I’m a shorter man. Barely 5’5″. Early in my life I gave up on dating shorter women because I believed they would only date much taller guys. Sure I was half right but I soon realized those shorter women also have their own insecurities about their height.

So I turned to taller women and saw them as a viable challenge and not a waste of my time. I actually believed dating a taller woman was easier because they have trouble finding men like me and be of equal height.

Upon exploring this topic fully I have found this. People have preferences and some stick to them for longer periods of time, due to their own insecurities. In this case my old insecurity of my height.

Yet I have also found that these are just preferences. And when I attract women, my height only comes into play when her own insecurities of her height cause her mind to narrow down her choices, by height alone.

You wrote,

“While I would like to sit up here on my high horse, I cannot deny that I have rejected men for being too short. I am not comfortable dating a man who is close to a foot shorter than me. Is that sexist? Perhaps, but I don’t care.”

I don’t think it’s sexist at all. That’s just a term people use loosely to describe a person’s viewpoint that is different than there own. For example, if a man believes women should be at home with the kids and another calls it sexist, it is never taken into account the reason behind his logic. Therefore until he proves himself to be a sexist pig, as far as I’m concerned his opinion is his own.

However I believe, because of your unwillingness to date much shorter men, if has a little to do with your insecurities in being tall yourself. Aside from that, I’m not here to judge your preferences.

My point is merely to call out one important factor which seems to be missing from my causal glancing of the comments,

Our preferences change as we grow each day because of our experiences and how we act or react to them. Meaning your preferences have not been altered because you either:

1) Have failed to allow shorter men to approach you.

2) You have yet to meet a smaller guy who is powerful and confident enough to make you feel more secure as a taller woman.

Tall women may not find shorter men a viable dating option but I’m willing to bet there are a few men that can change their mind. Al Pacino. Danny Devito. Tom Cruise is only 5’7″. Paul Simon is 5’3″. Michal J. Fox is 5’4″. James Cagney was 5’5″ And the list goes on ending at me.

You wrote,
“So why don’t we see more tall women with shorter men? I think it all comes down to self confidence. Shorter men don’t approach tall women because they are sure they will be rejected, tall women don’t approach short men for the same reason.”

Well said!

But let’s not again forget it takes two for approaching to lead to a conversation. It takes two in building a connection and when two people can not face each other eye to eyes, that connection requires a little more after approach to build that connection. It requires both people to get over their own height issues. And it also requires each person to allow the other to feel safe, or attractive, as you stated.

Apollo

July 23rd 2010 - 5:10pm

I’m all for the taller ladies and the shorter ladies too. Beautiful women come in all different shapes and sizes. I think people are forgetting the first thing that matters most physically when meeting a person, which is the face. I’m sure most of us have heard the saying, “the eyes are the windows of the soul.”
I honestly don’t know if this is true, but regardless of how tall or short a woman is, the eyes, the smile and the facial features are what I look for first.

Truthfully, I love taller women but I don’t ignore the short ladies. I stand 5’5 on my best day flat-footed, and in my dating history, I’ve had slightly better luck with the taller ladies. Women a couple inches shorter and a couple of inches taller, 5’1 – 5’9, I find are the pickiest and have the most hangups about a man’s height. Many times I’ve been refused by women shorter and much shorter who find me not tall enough to date. Men and women have preferences no doubt, but most of my guy friends, short and tall have no issues dating taller women. More often than not, it’s the taller ladies that have issues dating shorter men because they feel less feminine as the bigger person standing beside them or holding hands in public. The goal for me in this day and age is to try and eradicate the notion that masculinity and femininity are defined by height, which society seems to have a firm grasp of. A lot of women and some men still hold on to the prehistoric tradions that a man should always be taller than the woman for protection and security. That being said, I still keep my eyes open for the taller ladies who are confident in themselves, without a care in the world how tall or short a man is.

Apollo

July 23rd 2010 - 5:27pm

I’m all for the taller ladies and the shorter ladies too. Beautiful women come in all different shapes and sizes. I think people are forgetting the first thing that matters most physically when meeting a person, which is the face. I’m sure most of us have heard the saying, “the eyes are the windows of the soul.”
I honestly don’t know if this is true, but regardless of how tall or short a woman is, the eyes, the smile and the facial features are what I look for first.

Truthfully, I love taller women but I don’t ignore the short ladies. I stand 5’5 on my best day flat-footed, and in my dating history, I’ve had slightly better luck with the taller ladies. Women a couple inches shorter and a couple of inches taller, 5’1 – 5’9, I find are the pickiest and have the most hangups about a man’s height. Many times I’ve been refused by women shorter and much shorter who find me not tall enough to date. Men and women have preferences no doubt, but most of my guy friends, short and tall have no issues dating taller women. More often than not, it’s the taller ladies that have issues dating shorter men because they feel less feminine as the bigger person standing beside them or holding hands in public. The goal for me in this day and age is to try and eradicate the notion that masculinity and femininity are defined by height, which society seems to have a firm grasp of. A lot of women and some men still hold on to the prehistoric traditions that a man should always be taller than the woman for protection and security. That being said, I still keep my eyes open for the taller ladies who are confident in themselves, without a care in the world how tall or short a man is.

NeeNee

August 25th 2010 - 12:53pm

Im A Women Who Is 6ft, & i always had a problem dating short guys. Only reason for that is because i thought it would look weird. i always told myself that i will never date a short guy. but recently a short guy approached me and for once i gave him a chance. he is only 5’9 but his personality overshadows his height. My friend always told me that it shouldnt matter about the persons hieght. & i believe after reading this blog i have a different view on the height thing. what really matters is whats on the inside. Not the outside!