So Buzzfeed’s got a piece up on tall women dating short men. I’ve wasted most of the morning reading the posts and accompanying comments. A few of may favorites? Not wanting to date shorter men is sexist, Jezebel comments where all these 5’10″ women are talking about how hard it is to find taller men, and the Guardian piece where the author admits that 5’10″, while tall, isn’t freakishly tall.
As a member of the freakishly tall female clan (6’5″ in my bare feet), I find all this endlessly fascinating. While I understand what the 5’10″ shorties mean when they say they just want a tall hunk of a man to curl into, I can’t help but snort in derision. It’s so snotty, I know. But come on, are the six-foot men really that hard to find? Every guy I know claims to be 6 feet tall (which makes me anywhere from 6’5″ to 7’2″ depending on the man).
I have always, always, always, always dated men shorter than me. I don’t have a choice really, there aren’t a lot of men taller than me. Plus, growing up a taller woman was never that weird. My mom is 5’10″ and on his best days my dad might reach 5’7″.
So it was never weird to date shorter guys. In fact, I never even dated someone taller than me until I was in my late, late 20s. I discovered two things:
1.) Height cannot be the only thing you have in common, sadly
2.) It’s weird dating someone taller. I’m used to being the tallest person in the room no matter where I go. Always. So when I’m around someone taller than me I have this constant feeling that someone is reading my newspaper over my shoulder. It’s disconcerting.
While I would like to sit up here on my high horse, I cannot deny that I have rejected men for being too short. I am not comfortable dating a man who is close to a foot shorter than me. Is that sexist? Perhaps, but I don’t care.
That being said, dating a shorter man has more to do with the individual guy then some arbitrary number. I’ve been with 5’10″ men who have made me feel like the most attractive, beautiful creature to ever walk the earth, and I’ve been with 6’7″ men who have made me feel like pond scum. I’ve realized, much too late in life, that the way he makes me feel is much more important then what people might think when they see us together.
So why don’t we see more tall women with shorter men? I think it all comes down to self confidence. Shorter men don’t approach tall women because they are sure they will be rejected, tall women don’t approach short men for the same reason.
I have seen a video where a man is about 30″ tall married to a woman over 5L6″. That to me was unbelievable. But anything less than ifoot difference is OK
Im actually a 6′ 4″ guy and I’d love to have a woman as tall as me, 6′ 5″ is ok too
I’m a male 6ft. tall and I won’t date a woman less than 6ft myself. Although what’s on the inside is what counts…my goal is to find that awesome beauty who spans over 6ft. I guess it had something to do with my first love who was 6’6″. If only I could I could find a 7 foot tall woman…I would be so happy!!(THen I could put her in some heels!!) A woman under 6 foot is just so typical.
I’m six foot and short men are always trying to talk to me in nite clubs, its as though tall me are intimidated by me, short me look at me as a challenge. I just want to be happy right now I’m so lonely because I want a good man size doesn’t really matter its what’s in the heart that’s really important.
Four words: Susan. Anton. Dudley. Moore.
I am a six foot tall woman who absolutely adores her heels and will not wear flats under any circumstances. I have been fortunate to date men that have been taller than me but it has been hard finding a man who is six foot and taller and not had an issue with me wearing heels. I would love to meet that man! Men generally find me intimidating no matter how much I try to accomodate them and I have been told that its because I am slim, black and beautiful. I just want a man who won’t be intimidated and appreciate me for who I am!
I am only 5.2 and I never had a date before. Women alwanys tell me I am too short, not their type, or too nice. I will love to date tall women. Height doesn’t matter. Taller they are the bigger the hugs and heart. For me big things come in smaller packages like my heart. For women who are tall its even a bigger heart… So please give me a call at seven zero two five zero one one five three two. Lets talk and be happy… Hugs… Jason
Being 6’9″, I sure wish there were more taller women out there. Although one of my best friends is less than 5′, I find dating shorter women to be uncomfortable. Even more uncomfortable is trying to find a car that isn’t a luxury sedan. So it goes.
I’m at 5’1 guy and used to think i could not have a women less taller than myself. But just last year i dated a super tall women who is 6’4 . i feel brilliant because size does not matter
hello! i am a 30 year old single 6’4” woman who doesn’t share the story of ‘dating shorter men’ but has the story of ‘lack of dating due to scared short men’. i am open to dating men shorter than me (to an extent, i have to admit…. 5’10” might be my cut off) but regardless, it is always so much more THEIR problem rather than mine. yes, the old quote of confidence that i hear from friends ‘well, then you wouldn’t want them anyway….’ fair. but seriously- where to turn? where do i look for a man of solid character, emotional maturity and good sense of self….. who of course can handle and would love to behold a woman of my size? -annoyed.
@rebec,
Right here!
I am a 5’6″ tall male, and I have always loved and been fascinated with taller women. If they are 6ft, and they want to wear 4 or 5 inch heels, I say more power to them. It doesn’t bother me they they are taller, or can make themselves taller than they are. I have found the the problem lies with the women. They see a shorter guy, and they are like…”no way” They seem to feel like giants next to a shorter guy, no matter how hard any of us shorter guys try to make them feel pretty, and loved.
i was lucky to find a taller women & we are in love. the only problem: when we have sex foreplay, she claims that she must whip me to get her in the mood.
I have friends that are a tall couple. They met in college. The wife is 6 ft 4 and the husband is 6ft 7. They have two kids that are very tall for thier age, long and lean. I am 5 ft 8 and as a teen I wore high heels often and people used to go on and on about how tall I was because they were mostly 5 ft 3 or so. Once a woman asked me if I had to order special clothes because I was so tall. I was somewhat amused and offended at the same time. I have dated men as tall as 6 ft 9 and as short as 5 ft 9. Once I went to college I found that I wasnt really tall for a female that I was average. I met and married a man who is 5 ft 11 and 3/4 and the best thing about being close in height is kissing and hugging each other.
I just wanted to say how much I appreciate this blog! And I was wondering if 6’2″ is “freakishly tall”?
It’s nice to know that there are other people out there who have the same concerns as me. I’ve always been awkward because I’m a red-head,super pale, and rather thin. And I’m 17 years old. Hearing people talk about how tall people can be comfortable in their own skin makes me feel better about my height (I love wearing heels).
And might I add that I would like to punch those people who whisper behind my back, “Whoa, look, she’s tall!” in their faces??
Hi
I would just like to leave a comment…. I am a young 35yr old man form the UK. I have dated several women between 6ft and 6ft7 of different ages ranging from 19 -47 and from different cultures and social standing. I like a few men find taller women more exquisite, glamourous ect.
However a common trend if find only with the ladies i have dated is their overiding insecurities especially around their height. Issues growing up suffering veerbal abuse from people because they were taller ect.
I take heart that i have met these individuals and helped them ovceercome some of thier historic issues allowing them to grow and glorify who they are.
On a lighter note…… I thinkm the sex is much better with a taller woman, i love it because theres much more to handle and play with and if their body is in porportion with their height.. “GOD DAMN” you can do much more than you can with a smaller person. Please dont judge me as i am only talking from my experiences.
Thx for listening
I’m a guy (5’9″), but thin build. I do yoga. I’m strong, but I guess I don’t look like it, and my personality isn’t very macho. I am kind and respect others…and realize that we all come in different shapes and sizes.
Having said that, I have found that I do like to be the smaller one in a relationship. I can’t understand or explain why just yet…but do I need to? Can’t I just feel a certain way? It’s perhaps because of my naturally smaller build (although I must digress and mention that I’m quite normal size where it counts).
I have embraced my physicality and myself, and I’ve decided that I like the way nice women treat me regardless of their size/shape.
Undeniably though, I’m very attracted to tall women … for some reason I have been able relate to them on a physical level all my life. I have had one girlfriend who was taller than me, and I loved her very much even though it didn’t work out. I will always love her. I have had one girlfriend who was exactly my height, and I loved her. I will always love her too. And I’ve had several girlfriends who were not as tall as me. I loved them too, except for one, I will always love them too (one of them turned out to be a stalker…and I don’t much care for her).
Anyway, I have great respect for the author of this blog for having the courage not only to embrace life as a tall woman, and in action, essentially ‘correct’ what is so archaic and wrong with our society’s values and perspectives on gender and height, but also for having put it out here on the WWW, so that others can benefit from this knowledge. Addressing these issues makes you unimaginably HOT. It takes independence, confidence, and true intelligence to arrive at your disposition.
If I could close my eyes and wish for someone to come into my life…anyone, it just might be a tall confident, beautiful woman like you. And, If you could get over my cheesy pick up line, you’d see that everything about me is genuine and true in the long run.
Thank you for posting this blog
I’m a shorter man. Barely 5’5″. Early in my life I gave up on dating shorter women because I believed they would only date much taller guys. Sure I was half right but I soon realized those shorter women also have their own insecurities about their height.
So I turned to taller women and saw them as a viable challenge and not a waste of my time. I actually believed dating a taller woman was easier because they have trouble finding men like me and be of equal height.
Upon exploring this topic fully I have found this. People have preferences and some stick to them for longer periods of time, due to their own insecurities. In this case my old insecurity of my height.
Yet I have also found that these are just preferences. And when I attract women, my height only comes into play when her own insecurities of her height cause her mind to narrow down her choices, by height alone.
You wrote,
“While I would like to sit up here on my high horse, I cannot deny that I have rejected men for being too short. I am not comfortable dating a man who is close to a foot shorter than me. Is that sexist? Perhaps, but I don’t care.”
I don’t think it’s sexist at all. That’s just a term people use loosely to describe a person’s viewpoint that is different than there own. For example, if a man believes women should be at home with the kids and another calls it sexist, it is never taken into account the reason behind his logic. Therefore until he proves himself to be a sexist pig, as far as I’m concerned his opinion is his own.
However I believe, because of your unwillingness to date much shorter men, if has a little to do with your insecurities in being tall yourself. Aside from that, I’m not here to judge your preferences.
My point is merely to call out one important factor which seems to be missing from my causal glancing of the comments,
Our preferences change as we grow each day because of our experiences and how we act or react to them. Meaning your preferences have not been altered because you either:
1) Have failed to allow shorter men to approach you.
2) You have yet to meet a smaller guy who is powerful and confident enough to make you feel more secure as a taller woman.
Tall women may not find shorter men a viable dating option but I’m willing to bet there are a few men that can change their mind. Al Pacino. Danny Devito. Tom Cruise is only 5’7″. Paul Simon is 5’3″. Michal J. Fox is 5’4″. James Cagney was 5’5″ And the list goes on ending at me.
You wrote,
“So why don’t we see more tall women with shorter men? I think it all comes down to self confidence. Shorter men don’t approach tall women because they are sure they will be rejected, tall women don’t approach short men for the same reason.”
Well said!
But let’s not again forget it takes two for approaching to lead to a conversation. It takes two in building a connection and when two people can not face each other eye to eyes, that connection requires a little more after approach to build that connection. It requires both people to get over their own height issues. And it also requires each person to allow the other to feel safe, or attractive, as you stated.
I’m all for the taller ladies and the shorter ladies too. Beautiful women come in all different shapes and sizes. I think people are forgetting the first thing that matters most physically when meeting a person, which is the face. I’m sure most of us have heard the saying, “the eyes are the windows of the soul.”
I honestly don’t know if this is true, but regardless of how tall or short a woman is, the eyes, the smile and the facial features are what I look for first.
Truthfully, I love taller women but I don’t ignore the short ladies. I stand 5’5 on my best day flat-footed, and in my dating history, I’ve had slightly better luck with the taller ladies. Women a couple inches shorter and a couple of inches taller, 5’1 – 5’9, I find are the pickiest and have the most hangups about a man’s height. Many times I’ve been refused by women shorter and much shorter who find me not tall enough to date. Men and women have preferences no doubt, but most of my guy friends, short and tall have no issues dating taller women. More often than not, it’s the taller ladies that have issues dating shorter men because they feel less feminine as the bigger person standing beside them or holding hands in public. The goal for me in this day and age is to try and eradicate the notion that masculinity and femininity are defined by height, which society seems to have a firm grasp of. A lot of women and some men still hold on to the prehistoric traditions that a man should always be taller than the woman for protection and security. That being said, I still keep my eyes open for the taller ladies who are confident in themselves, without a care in the world how tall or short a man is.
Im A Women Who Is 6ft, & i always had a problem dating short guys. Only reason for that is because i thought it would look weird. i always told myself that i will never date a short guy. but recently a short guy approached me and for once i gave him a chance. he is only 5’9 but his personality overshadows his height. My friend always told me that it shouldnt matter about the persons hieght. & i believe after reading this blog i have a different view on the height thing. what really matters is whats on the inside. Not the outside!
I’m married to a 26 yo woman that is 5’11″ & larged boned. I’m 54 & stand only 5’5 with a slender build. We both are crazy about each other though. I didn’t think it would work in the beginning due to not only the height issue but the age thing as well. But she kept after me & leading me on so that after dating off & on since she was 19….we finally decided to marry 3 years back. We now have a 2 yo with another on the way in Feb 2011. I’m sure glad she kept after me…or I would lost her. Heck, she even carried me over the threshold on our wedding day.
@Bob, Great to hear.
BOB you sound like a child molester you pervert. She will dump your as.s when you turned old and gray for the young college boy next door.Hope you live long to see your kids finish college.
Why do you say Bob sounds like a pervert and child molester? He dated and married an adult. They have a kid together.
Young men have also died before their kids finished college. How is that relevant anyway? They knew of this possibility before marriage and it was their decision to marry anyway.
I am a 5′ 10” italian male. It is above average heigt here, and during my recent trip to Chicago I dind’t look shorter than the average american. Plus I am still growing (I’ll probably grow to be somewhere between 5′ 11”-6′). Therefore, height has never really been an issue. I have dated taller women and shorter ones too. However, I realized how being polite, charming and sensitive can annull any height difference.
To all short guys; Immanuel Kant was only 5 feet tall, and he is among the Greatest Men Who Ever Lived. I would gladly give up all of my height, all of hair (men know what a scare that usually turns out to be as soon as you reach puberty) on my head, anything, just to be half the man he was. Honest.
To Jason Murphy; your post almost made me cry. You are a great person, you sound like you’re very sweet and sensitive. Honestly, any woman vile enough to turn you down is nothing but a pathetic loser. I’ve seen plenty of tall men who turned out to be zeros throughout their lives and viceversa. You will soon make a lucky woman incredibly happy.
i have read above notes but my case is different. a taller woman agreed to date me on 1 condition. i had to let her whip me because that made her have orgasm. i did agree to be whipped by her. she was so intense that i ended up hospitalized.
Hello,
I am 5 ft. 10 and 3/4 inches (which I just round up to 5’11″), and I have to say that I take exception to the following comment:
“While I understand what the 5’10? shorties mean when they say they just want a tall hunk of a man to curl into, I can’t help but snort in derision. It’s so snotty, I know. But come on, are the six-foot men really that hard to find?”
To answer your question: YES, THEY ARE! First of all, the average man is not 6’0″ tall…hell, the average man is not even 5’10″ tall. Second, for those men who are 6′, they aren’t interested in dating a woman who is close to their own height because they find it intimidating. Many men want a woman who looks petite and does not appear to challenge their masculinity.
Now, I certainly understand that the hardships I’ve experienced being a 5’10″-11″ tall woman are tremendously magnified for you. But remember, just as 6’5 is not a common height for a woman, neither is 5’10″. I, myself, have been referred to as “freakishly tall.” I’ve heard the “too tall” jokes and the negative comments from people, especially men, my whole life. I am ignored and rejected by most men simply because of my height. I often have a difficult time finding clothes and shoes. The mainstream world makes it very clear that being above 5″8, as a woman, is not acceptable. With that said, while I understand why someone like you, who is 6’5″, considers 5’10″ to be short, we are “shorties” by no means.
TallDrinkOfWater posted these,
“The mainstream world makes it very clear that being above 5’8, as a woman, is not acceptable.”
“Many men want a woman who looks petite and does not appear to challenge their masculinity.”
TDOW, try being 5’5 and walking in my short man shoes! Men shorter than 5’8 are subject to way more scrutiny and ill-treatment by society as opposed to women taller than 5’8. There’s no comparison between the two. A large part of this dissension comes from short and tall women who demand, not prefer, but demand that a man stand no shorter than 6’0. In fact, short guys face tons more discrimination than tall women because society continues to equate masculinity and handsomeness with tall men. Beauty and femininity are never defined by a woman’s height. Nobody would dare try and defeminize a 5’10 runway model. You say that tall guys ignore you and reject you because of your height? Why not consider a shorter guy who actually admires and appreciates your height and would treat you with the respect that you deserve? Not all men are intimidated by taller women. I certainly am not. On the flipside I think taller women have a distinct fear of shorter guys. They pass us off as fetish freaks the first instant any short guy shows interest in a taller woman. A lot of the same tall guys you tall ladies so richly desire aren’t mentally capable of dating a taller woman. You can’t change that. These men rely on their height because it defines who they are and nothing else about them. If it’s an absolute must for you to be shorter than your male partner, so be it, but that’s your problem. You can’t say that there’s a lack of quality men because there’s lots of good men who aren’t 6’0+. You just never notice us when you’re fixated with tall.
One more thing for TallDrinkOfWater,
Society says 5’10 is tall for a woman, but it’s not rediculously tall IMO. I don’t know how much consolation that is to you coming from 5’5 me. I consider you average height for a model.
Now, I would never dare call you a freak or any tall woman a freak. Even Jodi, the author of this article who claims to be 6’5 barefoot, I wouldn’t call a freak. She’s just a whole lot taller than the average woman and there’s nothing wrong with that. More to hug, hold and love in plain english! Besides, poking fun at someone’s physique is rude. The men that call you these and other names aren’t worth your time and they likely have their own issues that you wouldn’t want to be a part of. Do recognize that some guys might be a little intimidated by your height, but not in a bad way. Tall women are an awesome sight for many short guys because we’re sometimes envious of the height you’ve been blessed with. I like my 5’5 frame but there are days I wish I was your 5’10. So when a shorter guy approaches you, don’t be so quick to pass him off as a fetish freak at first instance because he made reference to your height. Alot of it has to do with admiring your stature and appreciating who you are as a tall woman. Women with long legs are amazing and it can be quite the turn on for short guys. It’s just something that we don’t have, period. Either way, name calling is wrong and the same thing applies to people who make fun of short people. You’ll never know what it’s like to be called a shrimp, pipsqueak, runt, dwarf, or midget. Also, try dealing with people who blatantly refuse to respect you as a man and call you a kid. Sometimes I wonder what’s worse, the namecalling or not being taken seriously as an adult?! Either way, I don’t let it get me down because nobody likes a person who lives to feel sorry for themselves. Good luck to ya!
Im 5’11″ i’ve been with my woman for 1 year now, she’s 6’4″ and – I FUCKING LOVE HER – just had to say that…
I don’t care about what anyone else may say, and much less think we cant control peoples minds, although I do want to say that if we lived in a world free of judgement and obnoxious comments, a lot of people would be doing a lot of things that to us in our society today may seem to be less common – why because they would feel free to do so, free to not feel judged or made fun of for wanting to do what they really desired deep down -
I love my woman regardless of our height difference, she’s the one…
I was reading your blog, and I had to write about my experiences in trying to meet and date tall girls, so as to offer another male’s point of view.
When I was 24, I met a divorced woman, 32, who was 5’11”. I was 5’8”. It was a brief affair, but I just could not get over her long legs and curvy broad hips. She possessed a tapered waist which only accented her curvy hips ever further. Because of her, I developed an appreciation for long legs and the natural curvy hips of a tall woman.
The relationship ended due to the age difference, plus there were no jobs in the city I lived in. I lived in a city on the great lakes, and it was a rust belt city. I moved to Houston, TX, where I found a job quickly, and I moved into a singles apartment complex. Back then, Houston was the singles capital of America.
In this apartment complex, there was a loose knit group of single men and women. The group would throw spur of the moment parties, we would go to Happy Hours given by local radio stations and other singles events. (I even dated one of the girls in the group for a while.) In this singles group was Heidi, 5’11”, early 20’s, blonde hair, blue eyes and attractive. I remember one time she was standing before me, while I was sitting in a chair by the complex pool. She was wearing a white 2 piece bikini. I looked up through her long tanned legs to those broad hips, bringing memories of the past. In the few times we talked, she never expressed any interest in me, and I accepted that.
One Saturday, during the summer while at another pool in the same complex, I and2 or 3 other guys were having a few beers, when another man I knew walked up to us and mentioned that he had proposed to Heidi. She had turned him down, and he wanted anyone in the group, to put a good for him with her. To say the least, we were all stunned that a guy would say this to a group of acquaintances. Anyway, Heidi never did change her mind. A few months later, while at my pool, I overheard two girls talking about Heidi turning down two other men. I do not know if these girls were talking out of envy or were mocking these two men, but this showed that Heidi was getting the attention of men.
I stayed at this apartment complex for two summers. (Fast forward 12 years, one child and one divorce later.) A friend of mine wanted me to join a singles dating organization. I said before I join, I want to see what some of the girls in this organization looked like. He obtained about 20 biographies with photos of the women. It must have been photo 8 or 9, but there was Heidi. Her name appeared on the top of the page, with her photo below and two paragraphs about her life. I remember this one phrase, 34 years old, never married, no children.
I thought, how could this be? If she were not the most desirable girl in a social gathering, she certainly was one of the more desirable girls. I knew of three men who offered to marry her, and there must have been more. And this made me think about my own personal experiences as I approached taller women. As I went back in time, I remember two girls telling me to my face they wanted a taller man, one girl in a gym, talked to me with such a look of disinterested she couldn’t have looked more uninterested if she had wanted to, another girl I approached looked at me as if I had insulted her for even talking to her. On line, I met a girl 5’11”, and we worked out together once in my apartment complex gym, after that she did not return my two phone calls, another girl named Mary turned me down for a taller man. Now, you may say it is because of my looks, that could be true, but as I approached girls closer to my height, my success rate went way up.
This blog made me think about the rejections by tall girls, and it angered me, but not at the time the rejection. Only years later, when I actually tallied them up, for this letter, did I get angry. I was rejected not because I was ugly, bald, fat, had a dead end job etc.. No. The reason I was rejected by all of these women was my height, as if you can measure a man’s character or worth by using a yardstick. Not one even bothered to put forth the effort to get to know me much less date me. That later changed when I was divorced and single, but not for the right reasons.
These tall females, who I dated, were in their mid to late 30’s and found themselves with little to no interest from tall or short men. They experienced that a tall man was no more interested in dating a tall woman any more than a man with black hair wanted to date a woman with black hair. And the shorter men, like me, who for years had been rejected, were reluctant to get rejected again.
I had a relationship with a girl 5’11” another 5’10”, one wanted me who was 6’, but all these girls were past their prime i.e. mid to late 30’s. All three were divorced and found that men were not approaching them, just as Heidi discovered. And this made me wonder how many other women had squandered their youth and fertility because of the obsession for a tall man? I, who would have relished the opportunity of having curvy broad hips and a tapered waist to hold all night and to make love to into the early hours of the morning, was never, not once, even given a chance to start a relationship. That changed years later, when taller girls approached me, but my interest was for a younger female. For I could date younger women, and I did. When I was 38, my first girlfriend was 27, my next was 27, and my last was 24, who became my second wife.
I am now married with sons 11, 7 and 3 along with a son 22 from my first marriage. I am a good father and husband. I give my boys attention and time, as a matter of fact last week; I went on a Boy Scout camp with the 11 and 7 year old. They have electric motorcycles, pedal carts, all sorts of video games, and have traveled many places for vacations. I have traveled the world on business, and my wife has been on a few trips with me. I have been to Singapore, Japan, Sarawak, Brunei, Russia, Italy, Saudi Arabia, Dubai, England, France, Netherlands, Scotland, Tunisia, Republic of Congo, Nigeria, Venezuela, Brazil, Mexico, Canada, Alaska, the Arctic Circle, Hawaii, and 20 – 30 states of the United States. I can almost say there is not a city in the US where I don’t know of a good restaurant. I have 3 degrees, and I have co-authored a US patent. I have made over 6 figures for 10 plus years, my house (4 3.5 2) is paid for, so are my cars.
I could have provided a good life to any girl. I wanted a taller girl because of the physical turn on and to for fill one of my desires, yet not one single tall girl (20’s age) gave me a chance. I was turned down consistently and without a second thought.
So, if you are a single girl in your late 20’s or early 30’s with no prospect of a husband or children in the immediate future, you have no one to blame but yourself. There were men like me, who wanted a leggy female, (I did not need to have a taller girl, but liked the idea.) But they, like me, were never accorded the opportunity. And the reality is that the vast majority of tall women will not even consider a shorter man until it is too late. You would think it would be obvious that if you included shorter males in your suitor selections, your odds would increase in finding a mate, for there are a lot more shorter males than there are taller ones. So my advice would be to accept the advances of all men and get to know them. Throw away the yardstick, you may find someone like me, who would love to share his life and love with a tall girl.
You hit the nail on the head. What really makes me laugh is when those same females who reject men for being short(er) are rejected for being tall(er). THAT, they consider, is a crime TO THEM
are there any websites specically for tall women and short men to meet and date?
There are tons of tall guys out there but from what I’ve seen, most of them want short girls or they’re so full of themselves that they don’t appreciate women. I guess being 5’11″ makes me the short type of tall. At the same time, I scoured the internet looking for men who were 6’0″-6’11″. And what I’ve noticed is not only ae they hard to find but women who are closer to 6’5″ seem to have great issue with me looking for men that tall. LOL. TBH, I think the women that are far in the tall range have a sort of resentment towards the 5’9-6’0″ women because we get to be tall without it being as shocking. Thing is, we all go through the same, you ladies just go through it more often and more severely.
Anyway, my new boyfriend is half a foot shorter than me. We are thinking about getting married. I’m really not going to dump him on the slim chance I manage to find a guy that is taller. No more chasing peacocks for me. I want what is real and what is good and he’s good for me.
“So why don’t we see more tall women with shorter men? I think it all comes down to self confidence. Shorter men don’t approach tall women because they are sure they will be rejected, tall women don’t approach short men for the same reason.”
Hey Jodi, women still do all the choosing of relationships. I’ve heard enough tall women complain about short girls stealing all the tall guys. I’ve also heard the same tall women complain about short guys being much better looking than the available tall guys. What’s up with that? It must be said that tall girls with their own physical issues avoid good-looking short guys in fear of being overshadowed by his looks. Also, society puts pressure on the tall girl to find an equally tall or taller guy and look like a “normal” couple.
I will say that it is very true that many short guys don’t bother with taller girls. What’s the purpoose in trying when rejection is the likely outcome? Very few make room for shorter guys in the first place so why bother with them? The ones who actually do include us shorties are often past their child-bearing years. Why is it that short guys are never good enough for tall girls before they hit menopause? Does it take a rediculous number of bad dates, divorces and bad experiences with tall guys to make the tall girl look down and see that there is quality in short men?
Just a quick line…
I am 5’7″ i am 34 and since i hae been of an age to date for some unknown reason i have always dated women 6″ plus the tallest woman i dated was 6’4″.
I would like to add what i have found is the majority of taller woman are more aware of themselves as they have nowhere to hide. Some suffer insulting comments or ridicule. I havbe always supported the woman i have been with at the time.
My genral feelings are if you both get on and enjoy eachothers company the height isse is not an issue at all. Its other peoples issue so let them think or say what they want to and dont let it effect you.
Well, I’m 6’2 and my boyfriend is about 6’1. It’s tough to find a descent guy who’s also taller than me. We’re both tall, so the fact that I’m a bit taller is not that important. It all depednds on the perticular person, what really matters is to find the right guy.
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OM, I wrote pArticular with “e”… Typing errors suck.
I’m around 6ft3, I’m 24 and have dated lots of men, mostly around my hight. However I do intimidate men, since I regularly train with weights and I am also a kickboxer with a good record. I am also a very dominant person, so I have always preferred someone who isn’t dominant so to speak. Also I love my high heels, a lot of them are 6 inch heels, and havent owned any flat shoes for years apart from a pair of trainers, which are just for the gym.
However I got to know a cute guy online, he was perfect for me, very sweet and cute, and always respected me, which is what I wanted, however he was a lot younger than me at 18, and also barely 5ft.
When I first met him, I was wearing heels and towered over the poor guy, and he turned out only to be 4’9, he is incredibly shy, really thin and skinny, wore glasses which were clearly too big for him, but I adore him, as since we met, he has always been there for me. Granted, the hight difference proves difficult when it comes to kissing, but I just bend down and kiss him on the cheek, where he kisses my hand, which I think is so romantic.
At the end of the day, a women is or isn’t going to have an issue with a man’s looks, height, weight. Just as a man will have with a woman. Personally, I am attracted to women taller than myself. My wife is 2″ taller. She is not crazy about that, but it wasn’t a deal killer. We have been an item for over 30 years. Just some advice to all. Don’t get hung up on the numbers, it will screw up the magic.
I know you’re not supposed to have regrets in life, but I dated a girl on and off for three years who was 6 inches taller than me (I’m 5’9″ and she’s 6’3″). I was actually the one who ended the relationship, and yes it was because I thought she was too tall, and yes I did hear sneering comments when we both walked with each other in public. Things like, “look at that tiny man with that giant woman”. No, she wasn’t overweight…both of us were pretty slim comparable to our heights…but yes she did tower over me, although 6 inches really all that much in the grand scheme of things.
I’m older and wiser now, but if I had to do over again I would never have let her go. We had everything in common. We both enjoyed each others’ company. It was only when we went out in public did I feel awkward. Height is attractive. And I was just stupid.
I’ve known a girl who was 4’9″ wanting to be with a guy who is 7′, which seems crazy. And I’ve seen a guy who was around 5’3″ dating a girl who was 6’5″. But to each his or her own. I think it’s sexy either way.
And for you girls who think that 5’9″ is short, 5’9″ is actually the average height of a man in the US, and 5’4″ is the average height of a woman in the US.
What did I learn out of this? My height is boring. I wish I was 7′ or 5’3″. I think I’d rather be shorter than taller for fear of bumping my head on things. But being 7′ would mean I’d probably be rich and playing in the NBA. No shortage of women who want a tall, rich man.
People, I’m from New Hampshire but I moved to Europe 4 years ago. I am exactly 6 ft(183 cm)tall and now I found a girl, who’s barely an inch taller than me. Is it so weird to be with someone, who’s only a bit taller? I’ve always dated shorter girls and I am not short myself but now I have this girl and she’s really awesome… Ok, I can probably understand people making comments on couples like girl-6’3, guy-5’4 but I’ve also heard some people talking about us that way… I think we look pretty good together and I really don’t see why an inch difference (she’s smart enough not to wear 6-inch heels) should be such an issue. What do you think?
quote from “Muuurph
11:07am, 15.Dec.08″
above:
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“Damn, I found this while doing a GIS looking for porn involving tall chicks…..
I’ve been happily married to a 5’7″ girl for 11 years now.
…Now back to surfing for porn (what else am I going to do at work?)”
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wow! what a dumb fuck.
I am a 5’11″ man.. who loves very tall women..
I am still single at 55.. I would love to find a very tall women in my life for long term best friend.. Jim in Dover Tennessee
Rejecting a guy for being short is like rejecting a woman for having small breasts. It’s not a sexist thing to do, but it is a cheap and stupid to do. Don’t come complaining about a lack a of decent men one day, it’s your fault for rejecting them.
I’m a 7 foot guy who got his height later than most being just 5’5″ in 8th grade, 5’10″ as a junior, graduating at 6’8″ and finally arriving at 7′ when I at Georgia Tech. I learned to dance…I mean ballroom….Tango, foxtrot, Argentine Tango, etc.. as a 8th grader. My tennis coach taught a class after school and I couldn’t start my time till he was done. Believe it or not dancing improves your hand eye coordination, and the ability to be fast on your feet, 2 good things for tennis. I miss being able to dance with a woman who is tall and has a since of balance, timing, ear for coordination with the music. I have dated some “tall women” and personally, they tend to seldom have been exposed to this in any way. I quit dancing some time ago due to the fact I got tired of “normal sized women” managing to rub their face in my crotch while dancing…. Do you think there are any light footed tall girls in existance?
For all my life, I have been attracted to women who are taller than I am.. I stand at 5’11″, and I am 55 years old.. I would love to have someone like you (6’5″) in my life, I like swimming, singing, bicycle and motorcycle riding.. if you are reading this.. send me an email.
I would love to know you.. Sincerely Jim
İam an average man looking for a very very tall woman who is willing to accept me. İam nice and understanding and i will treat u as a normal girl.
Please send a confirmation to:
Tolgaustuner@yahoo.com
I am 6’2″ and it would be great to meet a women as tall as i am or taller.
I’m 5 ft 10 and consider myself tall . No way would I date a women taller than me would make me feel inferior . Men are the dare I say the superior sex regardless what women think . And where are all these amazons I’m from uk probably seen 3 women taller than me and avoided them . I would look hideous stretching my neck to a woman towering over me it’s not right & no I’m not sexist or short
I am 5′ 10 and I have Dated women from 5 feet to 6 .5 and from a hundred pounds to over 4hundred i dont know why some men are such cowards to be afraid of anyone in public that might consider there size as an issue if they did you dont want to know them anyway it would be like having a problem with being black or white i though we got over that kind of thing last century like in the 60′s but some people are going to be problem makers for all of us if they can just dont let them have that kind of power and we will all be better off!
David