By: bakiwop

bakiwop — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 19:28:51 +0000

i would deal with that for about 3 seconds before i explained that she had better learn to treat the people that are treating her with love and respect with love and respect (ick, there’s a bad sentence). otherwise she would be kicked out. you have your mental health to worry about.

By: Lerren

Lerren — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 10:29:02 +0000

You’re perfectly right in that she’s not *really* mad at you. She’s probably very angry at the situation, but sometimes, knowing that doesn’t make it a whole big bunch better. Or any better, really. You’ve opened your home, and rearranged your life, for her, at a point when things are pretty unstable for you, too. And I know just how hard it is not to, um… helpfully remind her of that fact. Others here have recommended some kind of mini-break - I’m going to add my voice to that, too - even if it’s just a weekend in a nearby, nicer hotel, or going to crash with friends for a few days. While I totally understand the urge to take care of your sister, taking care of yourself is something nobody else is doing right now (even though, were the universe fair an’ equitable, they would be), and that’s what you need to do. Your sister, it seems, needs to make sure she has a good lawyer and a good counsellor, so she can begin to work through things. Lashing out at you is not going to help her, or her kids, who, from what little I’ve read and you’ve shared, don’t need to be around that either.

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By: bakiwop

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